Mental Health Mondays | Change

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After today’s counselling session, I’m so glad I get to just sit down at my computer and write down exactly whats on my mind – the last 30 minutes of my session was really tough, but I know that its what I need in order to heal, next week I’m being psycho-analysed and I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t a little nervous. But, as always my sessions are open & free for me to talk about anything I want, sometimes we don’t even have a topic and we just end up finding something to talk about which is relatable. Today I started the session by talking about something which has really been bothering me this past week, and after talking its really put things into perspective and has helped me decide on this week’s MHM topic!

There comes a time in our lives when things change. Sometimes these things can’t be helped and sometimes change is needed. Yet sometimes many of us try to spend a great deal of time trying to avoid change, but it inevitably catches up with us. Whether its a change in a new job, moving to a new city or, the end of a relationship. Sometimes we’re not ready for that change and it can be seen as a shock when it happens – being able to cope with change can sometimes mean you’re a resilient person.

It’s easy to become fixated on an event which we have no control over, or towards people who might never change their actions or attitude, but instead of worrying about the situation and focusing on blaming others, being a resilient person means you’re more concerned about what you can control. Instead of looking for a bad in the situation, ask yourself why this change happened, look and see if you can take responsibility for the situation or analyse and move forward. One of the hardest thing about change is that 9 times out of 10, you feel a sense of loss. Even positive changes can make you feel a little bit sad. In these changes, its important to acknowledge the loss, and pay attention to what you’ve learned from the experience.

One of the things we may not know about change is the emotions we face. Change can be difficult because it often challenges how we think, how we work and sometimes the sense of our identity, we often react to change by using our emotions, you may feel that you’re shocked, angry, coming to terms with a new situation and then acceptance may come. However, the progress through these emotions are rarely linear – there is no clear cut way to decide how we’re going to feel in these situations. Next time you’re feeling these types of emotions, ask you’re if there has been a change in something recently – and you’ll be surprised at your answer.

As much as we hate to admit it, not a lot of people like change. Its easy to fall into simple routines and expect everything to be plain sailing, so when something does happen, it throws us of our game. One of the things I’ve learnt is that it’s normal to want to avoid things that we fear because it reduces our anxiety in the short term, yet avoidance of change can prevent us from learning that things aren’t as dangerous as we think.

After putting together a little list, I’ve decided to share it with you in hope that next time a change happens, whether it’s big or small – you can incorporate these tips into your evaluation of the situation. If you’re anything like me, and your brain is constantly over thinking then these will help you to rationalise the situation and hopefully leaving you feeling less upset and are able to accept the situation more.

Before doing anything, think the situation through and ask yourself ‘whats the worst that can happen?’ – most of the time, we’re scared of change because we’re afraid of the unknown, and the best way to deal with the unknown is to think things through. Even if you’re a visual person, write down the pro’s and con’s of the situation and sometimes, it’s not as bad as it seems at first, and if it is, it may just take some time getting used to it.

Concentrate on the things you can control – when a change happens, its important to find out how much control over the situation we actually have. I’ve learnt to believe that if we don’t have control over the situation, then honestly, we probably cant do anything about it.

Accept the situation – if the change is beyond control, then instead of worrying, try and take a reflective approach. View it as an opportunity to learn and grow, don’t take it as a set back, and you may find it brings you peace of mind!

Manage your stress – improving your ability to handle stress will help you when you’re dealing with change. Even by incorporating mindfulness into your routine will help you feel instantly calm.

Just remember, that regardless of the change, wanted or unwanted, it doesn’t reflect you as a person. It doesn’t mean you’re not good enough to someone if they can’t accept you, it doesn’t mean you’re not right for the job just because you didn’t get it, and it certainly doesn’t mean that YOU should change yourself. Change is just a way of life, and sometimes, as hard as that pill may be to swallow it, we just have to do it.

Glossy Box | June 2019

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Hi glossies! Happy Friday & welcome to the next Glossybox unboxing. This month is all about Summer Soiree – the aim of this box is to get you ready for the races, formal weddings and summer barbecues. This months box features 5 full sized products – including both skincare and makeup!

Last months sneak peek was Avant – Pro Perfecting Collagen Touche Eclat Primer – after receiving a previous product from Avant, I was really excited to try another product. The only time I really use a primer is when I feel my skin is dehydrated – as I’m pretty oily, I find that using a primer increases the oiliness and doesn’t help the foundation sit right. But, with this being advertised as silky and lightweight I’m hoping it’ll help my foundation sit a little longer. This is a full sized product so I’m hoping it lasts a while! The RRP is £85.00.

The next product in this months box is an Unwind – Deep Conditioner. There was 1 of 3 that we could have received and I got the Brut Rose which is designed to protect and hydrate colour treated locks. These conditioners are wine based, which is something I have never used before so it will be interesting to see if it works or not. This is a full sized product and RRP is £3.99.

The next product was Modelco – Lip Creme Matte in Peachy Nude. This was another sneak peak, but resisted all temptation until I received my box! This colour is a high-pigmented colour which is designed to give a rich, matte coverage. This is such a beautiful nude which will finish off the perfect dewy look. This product is full sized and RRP is £15.00.

Next was Sleek Makeup – Face Form Contouring Palette in Light. This compact is great when you’re in a rush and have your contour, brush and highlight all in one place. Another bonus is that this colour is the perfect shade for my skin tone. Since receiving Glossyboxes, I have tried a few Sleek makeup products and have really grown to love them! This is a full sized product and RRP is £9.99.

The final product in this months box was a Meech n Mia – Eyeshadow Chubby Stix in #054. I’m not a huge fan of eyeshadow sticks as I don’t find the payoff particularly great but – until I try it, I’ll give it the benefit of the doubt and hope it’s just as good as it says it is. The colour is in a gorgeous gold shade, which would look lovely on the lower lash line. This is a full sized product and RRP is £12.99.

This months box came to £126.97 – with all but one product absolutely ticking all the boxes! Let me know what you thought about this months box, and if you received a different conditioner than the Rose one!

Wednesday Weekly Wants | Puff Shoulders + Denim Cycling Shorts

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Hello lovelies, & Happy Wednesday – its time for another instalment in my Weekly wants. Two of the main things that have been on my radar this week have been puffed shoulder clothing and denim cycling shorts. I find cycling shorts so comfortable – they can be dressed up with a blazer, or dressed down with a top and trainers. I feel like I’m waaaay behind on the hype – but I have been absolutely digging denim cycling shorts and I’m so torn of which ones I want to buy! So I thought I would share some of my favourites which I’ve found.

Denim Cycling Shorts: Stradivarius at £15.99

Black Denim Cycling Shorts: Pretty Little Thing at £18.00

High Rise Denim Cycling Shorts: Boohoo at £14.00

Urban Renewal Vintage Remade Levi’s Denim Cycling Shorts: Urban Outfitters at £38.00

Mid Blue Kaia High Rise Cycling Shorts: River Island at £28.00

Mid Wash Raw Hem Longline Cycle Denim Shorts: Rebellious at £17.39

Black Raw Hem Denim Knee Shorts: New Look at £8.00

Rigid Denim Cycling Shorts: Topshop at £34.00

The next trend I have been absolutely loving is seeing puff shoulder tops everywhereeeee. I literally think it is the perfect combination for ‘pants and a nice top’. I just think they are so flattering and really do make an outfit look so much more dressy!

White Bardot Polka Dot Puff Sleeve Crop Top: Pretty Little Thing at £18.00

Cream Puff Sleeve Button Front Mini Dress: River Island at £30.00

Ditsy Floral Plisse Puff Sleeve Bodycon Dress: Boohoo at £9.00

Carpe Diem Black Polka Dot Puff Sleeve Top: New Look at £7.00

Red Square Neck Puff Sleeve Bodysuit: Missguided at £15.00

Shirred Puff Sleeve Schiffy Dress: Shein at £16.99

Fitted Cotton Puff Sleeve Mini Dress: & Other Stories at £79.00

Black Print Puff Sleeve Wrap Dress: River Island at £36.00

Black Leopard Print Puff Sleeve Bustier Crop Top: I Saw It First at £17.50

See ya’ next week for the next Weekly wants!